Choose Wisely
Yesterday I shared that a key ingredient to a happy marriage is to CHOOSE WISELY. Yet so many Christian men and women- especially women- choose poorly. Why is that? One of the following two reasons is overwhelmingly true, but after I share these, I will also share the underlying reason for what drives those two choices. Why do Christians seeking to be married choose poorly?
1) Loneliness. Being single is massively energy consuming for those who wish to be married. People get tired- emotionally exhausted- from waiting.2) Fixation on personal appearance. He's not tall enough. She's not thin enough. He's not athletic enough. She doesn't look like the actresses on TV. Christians in the last 50 years, especially in the last 20 years, have become so fixated on personal appearance that they walk right past dozens of great potential spouses because they don't fit the idea of the 'perfect man or woman' in their minds.
The underlying reason for these poor choices is a LACK of SPIRITUAL FOCUS. Single people, there is a reason why arranged marriages so seldom fail. It's because in those cultures they understand that you don't FALL in love, you CHOOSE to love. OF COURSE you want to stay in shape and look your best. After all, the Scripture says that you are to "honor God with your body."
But when seeking a spouse, why not imitate God's method of determining suitability? He says, "God does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart." Look at the heart! Does he love the Lord? Is he committed to being a provider? Does she love the Lord? Is she eager to be a wife and mother? Again, CHOOSE WISELY, and you WILL be blessed! -Pastor Brad
Written on June 16, 2026
Posted in Daily Devotions