More Joy In Your Life

June 30th, 2026
by Pastor Brad Rud

Since we're on the topic of marriage, I must respond to the question, "What advice do you have for those of us who are struggling in our marriages right now?"

There is only one person in this marriage you have the ability to change, and that is YOU. First, become your best self spiritually, physically and emotionally. Get up early in the morning when the house is quiet to spend time with the Lord. Pray fervently for your spouse and your marriage. Read the passages about joy and peace.

Now, by FAITH, determine to be joyful and peaceful TODAY. Add a 30 to 60 minute intensive workout to your schedule. This releases endorphins and pays benefits in every area of life. You can go to the gym, go for a run, walk stairs, or simply do an extended walk outside. Next, STOP ARGUING. Determine to speak only words that encourage and build up your spouse. Finally, REMEMBER YOUR VOW. If you met with Jesus for coffee today, he would have only one question about your marriage.

He would ask, "Have you loved your spouse today the way that you PROMISED me you would?" You might want to list your spouse's shortcomings and poor behaviors to Jesus, but I think he would just wave that off and say, "I'll speak to your spouse about that. What I want to know from you is, have you LOVED your spouse today the way that you PROMISED me you would?" Love is a choice. CHOOSE to love. Men, she desires to be treasured- to know that she is the one who captivates your heart. A small gift, flowers, date nights- these are things that actively demonstrate your love for her.

Ladies, he needs not only your love, but your honor and respect. Rather than reminding him of his shortcomings, continuously affirm those areas where he leads well, whether as a provider, helping with the kids or fixing the cars. Don't point out his weaknesses, but affirm those areas of strength. These things may go a long way toward 'fixing' your marriage. They may not. (Again, you cannot change another person.) But they WILL give you MORE PEACE and MORE JOY in your LIFE and in your HOME. Be blessed! -Pastor Brad

Laura and me (more than a few) years ago.

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